James 1:19 NIV

    This you know, my beloved brethren. But let everyone be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger. 


That you and your family can maintain a health balance between speaking openly and focused listening.

3 Thing That will help you to become a Great Listener:
1. Focus on the Person who is speaking - Be alert and Pay attention
2. Active Listening - It helps you to focus. Try to practice active listening, try sending back messages of empathy that let       your spouse know you are trying to put yourself in his or her shoes.
3. Ask Questions - Asking the right questions is particularly valuable if you're married to a person even the mildest level, use question to focus on clarifying valid points rather than defending yourself against what you feel are incorrect accusations.  Asking questions to  gain understanding, not to make judgement's.                                                                  

Pick a topic that's begging for discussion, and spend 5 or 10 minutes talking about it while practicing the listening skills outlined above. Than evaluate how you think the discussion might have been improved.